I am always excited to see Never Not Nervous in my inbox but this one is 🤌💕 I love that Maintenance Phase is reaching so many people and helping them the way it helps me.
This is the same feeling I always had when I was young and had this stuttering problem. But I always had to remind myself that it is the *inside* that matters.
my body and i don't move in similar waves, and because of this strangers will find it necessary to comment on a doctor they've heard of, a miracle cure, a prayer they will say for me. i used to really wish i could leave my body in bed because i knew that if i were to leave the house with it my body becomes my entire identity and over time i find it becoming difficult to separate "disabled" from all that makes me, me (there are many things that make me, me!).
and yes, this is still sometimes the case, but i choose to be more naive to the looks or the chatter when it does wander on over to me. because even though my body may be weaker, and more difficult to navigate, my body has always been there for me. carrying me and loving me unconditionally, its only right i do the same back!
People don't think my body is one to say nice things about. And I have a long history of wishing I could leave my body at home. I hate that our culture includes policing everyone's bodies in a large variety of ways. I'm sorry people feel that they can talk about your body.
This article (comic? post?) was very well done and made me think. Thank you.
When I was younger I was super slim. Everyone would do the same thing to me as you experienced. "Your arms are so skinny, look at your wrists, do you eat"? People called me olive - popeyes girlfriend.
It's weird that when you are thin, people freely comment about your weight but we never comment about people who are overweight. That's not o.k....
Jul 18, 2023·edited Jul 18, 2023Liked by Brooke Barker
This is just not true. People comment -- negatively -- about fat people's bodies all the time. Family and friends make comments in private and in public. People in cars yell comments at fat strangers on the sidewalk. People take stealth photos of fat strangers' bodies and post those photos online, with cruel comments. Just because you haven't experienced it doesn't mean it isn't happening daily to fat people.
Thanks for your comment Kelly, I know that for every unsolicited “congratulatory” comment I get about my body, fat people are getting a million times more comments, both in public and private.
You are right Kelly. I reread my comment and realize that it is not true. People say negative comments all the time about people's weight - thin or fat and more. None of it is o.k.
I’ve always told my daughter that her weight is the least interesting thing about her. She seems to believe it. I’m still working on myself.
I am always excited to see Never Not Nervous in my inbox but this one is 🤌💕 I love that Maintenance Phase is reaching so many people and helping them the way it helps me.
1. I'd rather leave a bike home than my body: that metal clockwork evil is way more damaging than my meat sack
2. In Italy we cheers saying "salute!" or "cin cin!" when our glasses touch each other
This is the same feeling I always had when I was young and had this stuttering problem. But I always had to remind myself that it is the *inside* that matters.
my body and i don't move in similar waves, and because of this strangers will find it necessary to comment on a doctor they've heard of, a miracle cure, a prayer they will say for me. i used to really wish i could leave my body in bed because i knew that if i were to leave the house with it my body becomes my entire identity and over time i find it becoming difficult to separate "disabled" from all that makes me, me (there are many things that make me, me!).
and yes, this is still sometimes the case, but i choose to be more naive to the looks or the chatter when it does wander on over to me. because even though my body may be weaker, and more difficult to navigate, my body has always been there for me. carrying me and loving me unconditionally, its only right i do the same back!
thank you for this lovely post <3
People don't think my body is one to say nice things about. And I have a long history of wishing I could leave my body at home. I hate that our culture includes policing everyone's bodies in a large variety of ways. I'm sorry people feel that they can talk about your body.
This article (comic? post?) was very well done and made me think. Thank you.
When I was younger I was super slim. Everyone would do the same thing to me as you experienced. "Your arms are so skinny, look at your wrists, do you eat"? People called me olive - popeyes girlfriend.
It's weird that when you are thin, people freely comment about your weight but we never comment about people who are overweight. That's not o.k....
This is just not true. People comment -- negatively -- about fat people's bodies all the time. Family and friends make comments in private and in public. People in cars yell comments at fat strangers on the sidewalk. People take stealth photos of fat strangers' bodies and post those photos online, with cruel comments. Just because you haven't experienced it doesn't mean it isn't happening daily to fat people.
Thanks for your comment Kelly, I know that for every unsolicited “congratulatory” comment I get about my body, fat people are getting a million times more comments, both in public and private.
You are right Kelly. I reread my comment and realize that it is not true. People say negative comments all the time about people's weight - thin or fat and more. None of it is o.k.
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